Ghost

There's been lots of talk about the phenomenon of ghosting, when you avoid directly breaking up with someone simply by fading away or ignoring him. I am guilty on multiple counts. I'm terrible at saying I don't want to see someone again.

I have to wonder, though, at what stage in the "dating" the disinterested party becomes a ghost, rather than it being the other party's inability to take a hint. Say you have a couple of dates with a guy and then decide the sex isn't so great and that he isn't much of a conversationalist either, so when he texts you again and you don't respond in time for the weekend, shouldn't that send a strong signal?

If it were me waiting to hear back, I'd drop it. I let people know I'm interested, and if they don't respond, I move on. Someone else, and I'm drawing from actual experience here, might decide to keep texting. And if no response, he hits me up on Scruff, and Grindr, and BarebackRT in what appears to me to be mounting desperation. Coming at me from multiple angles does nothing but annoy me.

So yeah, I suppose I ghost guys, but in the case above, was it even fair to say we were dating?